Whether you work at a big company or a small one, there’s always going to be someone you don’t click with. Maybe this person just has mannerisms you can’t stand, or maybe they send you 100 emails a day. Regardless, when you see them upwards of 40 hours per week, you have to find a way to work together. Depending on your personality, there are several different ways to handle this situation.
1. Ignore them.
Ignoring them could go badly, if you are not a person who can let things go easily. If you get an email four times in a row with different information, so frustrating! Just be glad that you aren’t like that, and do something that will distract you from the annoyance. If you are someone who gets worked up easily, this could be an immediate answer to your problem, but not the solution. You need to calm down before you address the situation, otherwise you’ll get yourself into trouble and into an argument.
2. Talk to a friend
Make sure this person DOES NOT work with you. This will allow you to get all your frustrations out, and still won’t affect your work life. It is also nice to hear the opinion of someone who is unbiased and a third party. They could offer you some insight, and help validate your feelings or give you a view into your annoying co-workers mind, maybe they just had a bad day. This friend knows you much better than your co-worker and can help you figure out the best way to handle him/her.
3. Be kind.
My mother always says ”Kill them with kindness.” It’s nice to go through life knowing that you did not stoop to their level. A lot of people act the way they do because they want to get a reaction. Show them a different reaction then they are expecting and they likely will stop trying. Being kind to someone who you dislike is hard, and takes strong mental control. Down the road when you get a great promotion, and move to the department you’ve always wanted to you will look back and be glad you were nice to them in the grand scheme of things.
4. Do an amazing job.
There is nothing like putting a person in their place by being, well, awesome! No one in the workplace should ever keep you from doing the best job you possibly can, if they do it might be time to tell your manager. If you are known for doing great work, and this annoying co-worker is accusing you of not completing a task you were supposed to, most likely (with a little proof of course) they will believe that you had the best of intentions and dismiss their comments until asking you directly.
5. Tell them your problem.
This is the riskiest of the five options. Realistically, you should be able to talk to the people around you about your issues. Sometimes people are just simply unaware of how their actions are coming off to others. When you know that you have exhausted every option, you can at least know that you tried your best to resolve the situation and you’ll be a happier person for it!
Any other suggestions? We would love to hear them!